How to Avoid Regrets in Life

I recently had the opportunity to speak with an old man at a bench in a public park. The man told me that he is edging towards his 60th birthday. And as our conversation progressed, it became clear that he is a man who is struggling with lots of unresolved issues. It also became clear that he is a man who has lots of regrets. By the end of the conversation, I found myself meditating on the subject of regrets, and what one can do to avoid them.

It occurred to me that the main thing that the one needs to do, to avoid regrets in life, is to ensure that he or she utilizes the opportunities that come their way properly. This starts right from the childhood. In one’s early childhood, there is the opportunity to play with other kids. If one takes this opportunity seriously, he or she gets a chance to develop social skills that serve him or her well for the rest of life. Then comes the opportunity to acquire an education. If one takes this opportunity seriously, he or she is likely to have an easier life: given the fact that people who have solid educations tend to earn more, and to generally live better lives than those with more modest levels of education. For instance, the folks who receive regular and predictable paychecks through the Securitas paperless pay talx system, after going through the Securitasepay.com login page tend to be those who invested their time in getting solid educations.

The opportunity to start and nurture a family is another one that is not to be taken lightly. One the major regrets expressed by the old man I was talking to in the park was on account of not having nurtured a family when he had the opportunity to do so. And if many people are to be honest with you, they will tell you that their worst regrets are actually family-related. That is a common thread I see whenever I read the truly candid autobiographies (though, as I said in my last blog post, I have lately come to dislike autobiographies).

In the final analysis, if you get certain opportunities, and you do your best in taking advantage of them, then you won’t have any regrets in the future. You will know that you did your best – whatever the outcomes.

Why I Have Come to Dislike Autobiographies

A few years back, I used to be an avid reader of autobiographies. There was actually a time when I had a target of ensuring that I read at least one autobiography per month. But as I read more and more autobiographies, I started to resent them. A point seems to have come where I’d rather read a work of fiction, rather than reading an autobiography. Even nowadays, in spite of living a rustic life (which gives me plenty of time to read), I still can’t get myself to start reading autobiographies again.

One of the key reasons as to why I have come to dislike autobiographies is in the fact that these books tend to be very highly sanitized. Thus, the picture you get after reading a given person’s autobiography is not the real picture.

Another key reason as to why I have come to dislike autobiographies is in the fact that important details are often omitted from these books. It is, for instance, often very hard to know exactly how the autobiography subject’s ‘big break’ came about. They do tell the truth, but it is often not the whole truth… Continue reading “Why I Have Come to Dislike Autobiographies”

Why Rustic Life is Better Than Urban Life

Over the years, I have had the opportunity to life in several major cities. I have also had the opportunity to live in the countryside, you know, in the rural areas. I have come to the conclusion that rustic life is better than urban life. I back that assertion (to the effect that the rustic life is better than urban life) with several reasons.

Firstly, rustic life tends to have fewer pressures, compared to urban life. The people who live in the bigger cities have to deal with traffic jams. They also have to live with the pressures that come with living in high-rise apartments. Further, they have to deal with tight schedules, noise and lots of other unpleasant things. Come to think of it, it is the stress-free existence in a rural setting that has enable me to concentrate on my passion for poetry. – which was always hard when I lived in the major cities.

Secondly, the people in the rural areas tend to be much friendlier than the people in urban areas. This is actually why it is possible for people in the major cities to end up being ‘lonely’ — in spite of the sea of humanity around them. Continue reading “Why Rustic Life is Better Than Urban Life”

Earning a Living Through Poetry

Why is it so hard to earn a living through poetry? This is a question I keep on asking myself, whenever I look at the options through which a poet can earn money. And it is against a background where I happen to be a reasonably talented poet — and where many of the people who know me keep on asking me how much money I earn through poetry. Whenever this question comes up in a discussion, I tend to blush and change the topic swiftly. I react that way because I am too ashamed to talk about the money I earn through poetry. If I was to be honest about it, the truth of the matter is that the amount of money I earn through poetry is pitiful. Peanuts. I have spent countless nights writing poetry – I am more of a night owl, as I told my readers in an earlier post.  And after putting in so much effort, I have often ended up with money that is not even enough to finance my coffee habit. Continue reading “Earning a Living Through Poetry”

The Downside to Being a Night Owl

I confess that I am a night owl. This is to say that I am a person who prefers to stay awake late into the night, and then wake up late in the morning. My ideal daily program is one where I go to sleep by 4 Am, and wake up by 11 Am or 12 Pm. The opposite of a night owl is a morning bird: in which regard I have some friends who actually prefer to go to bed early, and then wake up early in the morning. These are the sorts of folks who would prefer to be in bed by 10 Pm, in order to arise by 4 Am or 5 Am.

Being a night owl has its advantages. But in today’s blog post, I will be focusing on the downsides to being a night owl. These are, in other words, the reasons as to why I sometimes wish that I was more of a morning bird kind of person. Continue reading “The Downside to Being a Night Owl”